People are equating sexual intercourse with love. They are equating sexual arousal with love. They equate the asshole of a man with the cunt of a maiden. All three of those statements are wrong.
Sexual arousal and attraction is a feature and quality of love, but only after love has first arrived. Without the love, it is nothing but pleasure. After you know you love someone, then the sexual attraction and arousal you may feel for them reinforces that love, but it is not required.
You do not need to be sexually aroused by your spouse to love them.
There are people who equate the spousal relationship as only that of a sexual exchange, but that too is false. The sexual exchange is relevant only for procreation and that can be done in most cases no matter how sexually aroused you are by your spouse, or there are now medical procedures to do so without sexual intercourse at all!
The joy of a spousal relationship is that you enjoy a person’s company so much that you always want them around. That is not always possible, but that is the desire. It doesn’t matter what you are doing in those moments—sharing a meal, waiting in line at the airport, watching entertainment, playing a game, going for a walk, etc—whatever you are doing is infinitely better because of who you are doing it with, your spouse, the person you truly love.
The reason this is so important to understand in the prioritization of society values is because most of your time together when married is not spent engaging in sexual activity. Most of it is doing mundane, normal things. You want those moments to be magical more than you want the sex to be orgasmic. That appropriately ordered desire is reinforced by the fact that the qualities of a partner that make mundane, normal life wonderful are much more significant for natural survival and are infinitely more beneficial to the community. Sexual activity that is for pleasure is of no importance to our survival or our community, but it is enjoyable so it should not be prohibited.
There are goods to sexual activity, but those can be achieved with self-maintenance for both boys and girls, men and women, and that too should not be prohibited. There need to be boundaries, sensible restraint, and respect for privacy, but the concept of masturbation being evil as a sin is not applicable to real life, and I doubt it ever was. Restraint, hygiene, and privacy as appropriate, and I’ll leave it at that.
Between spouses, sexual climax can be attained in more ways than can be counted because of how Story can be woven into sexual activity to achieve climax. Additionally, there are many more practical and accessible ways like techniques, medication, and objects designed for sexual enjoyment to heighten the experience. You should never feel like you need to rely on another person’s body for the needs of your own sexual libido. Instead, concern yourself with how your body can be good for your spouse’s sexual libido.
Consider it an expression of love from you to your spouse that you can accept them for their sexual performance no matter what it is because you carry the burden of your sexual desires and needs yourself and do not place them on other people. Everyone has their own burdens and even though we need to ask for help from each other, that should only be done as necessary because of what we can do for ourselves to not make the burdens of others worse. Never try to add to another person’s burden without being apologetic and respectful about it. Most of our burdens as human beings are of higher conceptual reality than animal nature and are thus unseen, invisible, and imperceptible. You cannot possibly know what individuals struggle with privately and should never believe that you do. Even doctors in confidential relationships with a patient can only understand a person’s individual burdens to an extent that their profession can help with, but not entirely.
Do not require a person to weigh their burdens before you to be judged, i.e. “Do not put the Lord to the test”. The Lord has the heaviest burden of all. That burden is more than you could possibly carry. Unless you are Thor or Hercules level powerful you will not be able to even move it, and even Thor only lifted the tail of the cat that was the Lord’s domestic animal companion. He couldn’t out-drink the Lord with mead, because the Lord’s cup is an entire ocean. Just because that burden is extremely heavy, impossibly so, doesn’t mean that the Lord is so strong that he doesn’t struggle with it, because even the smallest changes can be noticeably intolerable.
Even Jesus fell under his own burden while he carried it to Golgotha. He needed help when he couldn’t do it alone because the human body is weaker than the burden of the Lord requires, and his legs gave out twice and another man had to help lift the cross and walk with him for part of the way. Unless you have a good reason that is made clear to them, like a proclamation about collecting a fair tax to maintain the roads, do not add to a person’s burden, man or woman, because it may in fact be a cross they will be crucified on even though you cannot see it.
At the same time, do not try to take burdens from individual people without talking to them and asking if you can help. One, you don’t understand the situation as it pertains to them like they do, so you cannot possibly know if any action will be helpful or problematic unless they confirm it for you. Other burdens that are universal, like reliable plumbing, shelter, and acquiring food, those need to have an effort made to lessen them by everyone even if that is only encouragement to people doing the work. Those burdens affect everyone, yourself included, and should be made as manageable and light as possible for everyone, because of the cross they or you may be carrying. A cross that will be essential for everyone else’s survival too perhaps.
You don’t know if the actions that happen in a small African village you’ve never heard about will be vitally important to your life in New York City, so err on the side of caution and respect every occasion of burden as though it could be vitally relevant to your own life. That happens in mysterious ways that are judged based on moral quality alone, and in practice is the simplicity of being a good person. The widow who gave her two coins gives a greater contribution than the rich man who gives an entire chest of money. The mysterious way— the unknown variable— is a possibility that is judged by moral quality and pertinent to life and death. Meaning an evil action will in fact result in your death or that of others through the mysterious way, and a good action save your life or that of others when you or they would have otherwise died.
So, sexual pleasure is something each individual is responsible to themselves for. That is your burden, and it is most often the mysterious way as an unknown variable that accomplishes the outcome of what is done to meet that need. The moral quality of how you provide for your own sexual needs has a direct impact on whether or not they will continue to be fulfilled. If you watch porn, pay for it when possible and reasonably. Porn is cheap, so it shouldn’t cost much, and the inequality in the useless economy we have causes people to be poor, so we don’t have much to pay with anyway. Most people are the widow with two coins. The best pornography is artistic, masterful, and cannot be faked, which is true about any master crafted work, and that should cost more because mastery is not obtained cheaply.
99 percent of the pornographic media doesn’t qualify as that. They are just fucking on camera and that is not as difficult as sacking groceries, which is also done on camera. The reason is that what makes the artistic, masterful quality of goodness that is enjoyed in the best works of art is also what is prioritized as more important than sex in all other aspects of life. It is the very same reason that makes non-sexual good qualities of a person always more important than their sexual qualities as a spouse. Striking the balance between a masterfully good scene and a gratuitous display of sexual behavior is a difficult target to hit. Some people probably only see the sexual aspect, while others who have a “trained eye” are so enchanted by the Story that the sexual aspect is relieved without needing to be expressed physically! It is the purest goodness, like that of small children playing naked in a fountain. Sex can wait. Love cannot.
If you require your spouse to cut off his flesh, then you are asking him to cut off what makes him a man and are asking for him to take his own life. If you require your spouse to have an enormous shlong nine inches long at least, then you are asking for gluttony and will never stop consuming more and more and more while being satisfied less and less and less when you do. If you ask for a wife to be beautiful, you are asking for a princess, and you’d better be a prince to match, because such people have public responsibility, and part of that is simply looking your best because you are always supposed to be doing your best (as appropriate). Part of the reason that is good is because royalty inspires people to be better themselves, making their daily lives of mundane practical living more fulfilling and enjoyable.
In short, royalty is a form of public servant, and our burden is total selflessness (as appropriate). Do not ever ask or require any one of us to pour it all out for you. One: we won’t because it would be a needless, excruciating death and inordinately costly in every other way, and two: you are unworthy of having the entire goodness of our life and that is not something you have a right to ask for. Also, there is nothing you possibly can do that is useful with so much selfless charity being given, so it is wasted as evil, and that will be severely punished by the royalty you insulted by “putting the Lord to the test”.
Other examples: if you require blonde hair of a spouse, for either role of spouse, then you will become covered in hair and take upon the likeness of a beast! If you demand white or black skin color, then you will be blinded by pure light or pure darkness and no longer be able to see where you are going.
Beauty is a higher conceptual reality that is invisible. Beauty is human natured, not animal natured. You can endlessly admire the qualities where you find it, but the beauty itself is beyond those qualities as a form of moral value of the highest order of good. Animals can display colorful feathers and cozy nests, but humans have to display the invisible, and that my friends, is impossible. Beauty requires a miracle to be seen, which is why it is of a different order of higher goodness than all else that can be seen.
Falling in love is one of the ways for that miracle happening. It is the beauty of a person being revealed to another person, and if you experience it happening, do not cheapen it with sexual activity. That is only appropriate after all else that is good has occurred. If you don’t save sex for last, or at least until love is confirmed truly (the most assuring way is by sacred marriage rites), you will break it. In many cases, that’s okay because we aren’t looking to marry the people we have sex with and thus don’t put love forward to be broken when engaging in sex, and you can part ways with them without feeling or causing any agony or pain. That suffering caused when love is broken unintentionally is the separation of a person’s self from that which makes the miracle of love possible as something we can experience as human beings, not animal beings.
If someone expresses love to you, you should respect them enough to respond in acknowledgment of their expression. That is another passage of the mysterious way, but you will know how you need to answer and what that should be because of what you will feel and share spiritually with them through an emotional and mental connection (mind/body) even if you’ve never met in person (that’s normal social interaction between people). The fakers will have no impact on your heart, but you should still be polite if possible to prevent undue insult.
Princesses and popular idols may have problems with too many suitors to reasonably be able to reply to each one, but they are also most held accountable to a true response. That is because of the miracle that makes possible royal authority and the miracle that makes possible idolatry, both being miracles of divinity which require truth. If you betray a person because you choose worldly evils before love, you will lose everything and cause immense suffering to others. That does not mean you are helpless! You simply need to respect the gesture as appropriate.
As a man with royal authority myself, there is no maiden on a higher level of authority. There is no possible way they can ignore the king without also insulting him if they received his gesture, which the king would know because of the mysterious way. Idolatrous power and authority are not greater than or more important than the power of royal authority, because royal authority is directly from the Lord and only the Lord (you know what I mean—not a Jew. The opposite of all that is Jewish, because Jews separate from the Lord by denying and rejecting Jesus—their king and royal authority who they condemned to death by bearing false witness against him to have him brutally murdered. That’s why Jews go die in eternal shame and suffering because of their own foolishness and nobody cares what happens to them because we all want them done away with.).
Idolatry is a lesser miracle made possible by good and evil spiritual beings alike, as well as human beings— that is generally what Protestant Christianity does, as well as other forms of cult Christianity like the Mormons. Idolatry is not greater than royal authority and the laws and rights of justice have to be applied to idols like anyone else. That authority and the laws and rights of justice are derived singularly wherever royalty is found from the universal oneness of truth, power, wisdom, and divinity.
You do not need a government or nation to have the power of royal authority which is the providence of kings, emperors, and princesses alike. Just as the betrayer Jew became a king when he was previously a shepherd, a king or queen can be blessed by the divine authority recognized as universal anywhere and at any time to receive the power and authority of the highest divine as necessary.
They do not need to rule over people, nor should they want to. They are not destined for ruling over others and certainly not required to do so. People do not need them ever. They are either desired or are hated. If they are loved and desired, it is because they are selfless to the greatest extent possible, as well as capable because of the extraordinary power and authority they have no matter the manifestation of power they use. Just as that power and authority is of the providence of the divine, a betrayal can have devastating consequences of divine wrath for themselves and other people, such as what is written about what will befall the Jews because of the betrayal of one such useless king of theirs that never submitted to justice for his crimes. That’s the reason why royals are hated if they are— they are an excessive burden, and a useless one that is entirely unwanted and unnecessary.
That prophecy of punishment for the ancient sin at the foundation of Israel as a nation will come to pass in the coming days as a result of what Jews in this age criminally did to me personally as an individual, and it is their ultimate undoing and my vindication.
Royal persons are not infallible. We are not invulnerable. We are not invincible. We are men and women like anyone else. We bleed, cry, fall in love, and with the exception of princesses, go poop.
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