It's embarrassing!
That’s why they don’t.
That’s just the way it is though! It’s embarrassing for everyone when they are falling in love! That cannot be helped. It is embarrassing for a guy to ask a girl out, it is embarrassing for a girl to be asked out by a guy. Then you die. I’m not sure what taxes are about, because they pay me, but… I guess that happens somewhere in between,
Anyway, the point is this:
When someone confesses their love, proposes, asks you out, etc. You need to acknowledge them as appropriate, even though it is embarrassing because if you don’t it is hurtful to the person who put themselves out there for you. They go out on a limb, express their passion and vulnerability by asking you out, and if you totally ignore them, you are no better than a criminal thief. You take the goodness they offer without paying for it, when something is in fact expected in return: an answer.
If you are a decent person, a polite human being, well mannered, considerate, and generally good, you don’t just trample on people’s feelings because you are too arrogant to be embarrassed. You accept the embarrassment and do what is good, which is provide an answer. That doesn’t have to be committal, but you do need to acknowledge them somehow. Do you have any idea how rude it is to completely ignore someone when they express the most fundamental part of their existence to you with the emotion of love?
That is pure self identity—- you don’t think so? Why not? When someone asks you out that leads to marriage, and that is ultimately what they are presenting themselves for. People who do that, but are not genuine gradually become more and more hollow and unlikeable as human beings, and eventually they are totally undesirable, so don’t do that. Whenever you are engaging in acts of love and romance, you need to respect what happens with the same gravity as though you were in war. Lives are on the line, your own, your friends, your nation, all that you enjoy, value, and want protected could be lost if you make a mistake. It is not a game, and you should not be pretending like it is.
It’s probably embarrassing because of how real it is, and it reminds you of your bodily nature when people are often totally oblivious that they have one. However, if you want to transcend bodily nature, you need to acknowledge it completely as who you are before you can move past it. Circumcision does not accomplish that for children, and instead confuses them because they want to believe it does, but they cannot possibly do that because they have not matured into a fully grown adult to have a body to acknowledge. That practice just confuses the subject for people, making them more attached to their body because of what was done to it.
That’s what’s embarrassing about it. When you propose love, or love is proposed to you, it centers you back on your natural self without any of the illusions and nonsensical mackarel people are so attached to in life with their “identifiers” and “labels” and “groups”. All that crap is like garbage you put between your natural self and your perception because you don’t want to be reminded about it. You want to believe you are much more, and all those stupid things help people do that. I don’t know why they are so into that, but that’s just the way it is.
I hang out in my natural self totally at ease and comfortable, and that’s fine for me. I make no pretensions as to who I am, I do not identify with any labels, groups, or identifiers, and I know and accept myself. So things like being embarrassed aren’t all that much of a problem for me. In fact, if I feel embarrassed, I look at it like a blessing, because that is like getting a big score for personal growth depending on what you do with it.
All your self-help books, spiritual teachers, and various mutilated men trying to tell you how to live—it’s useless if you hide from yourself because you are embarrassed. It’s useless if you fail to embrace yourself when you are embarrassed and resolve whatever flaw of your character was causing it. You will never “grow” if you fear embarrassment, especially that of romantic embarrassment.
Better that you endure being embarrassed and reject someone cruelly, than to completely ignore someone and deny their existence entirely while taking it with you as if it is your own. What do you even use it for? Ego gratification? Do you not know that you are rotting from within by keeping things like that? You sin by denying someone their existence, just as much as you sin by denying the Christ when you confessed you were Christian. That is what you are denying a person— the divine spark of their existence within their soul. You completely ignore that, and it causes pain because you take light from it at their expense. That light does not serve you for long, and eventually whatever your puffed up, arrogant self did to go higher, will not be able to maintain itself because you are unworthy of your own body.
Eventually, what dimmed their light with your insult to the truth of their existence and brightened yours when you took it arrogantly like it belonged to you, makes you, the thief dimmer than you were, and the one who was hurt becomes brighter. Normally, both people should gain in light and brightness. The one who asks and the one who acknowledges. That brightens both people and empowers them, and it is good to do often and not be afraid of the most amazing and reckless love that presents an opportunity.
The thing is… when you do not give a response… it makes the world a sadder place to live. It drains happiness from the world. It destroys love, wounds, and makes life worse for everyone, yourself most of all. You shouldn’t do that, and that is why I often express my outrage at the insults of countless harlot whores in public who do not even have the decency to give a response, which is the most basic human natured good.
Animals just pounce on each other. Humans, we say words. We ask, propose, and only when words are spoken in agreement does love actually happen. It does not happen otherwise. Love demands a word! It will not accept life without one, which is why it causes people to commit suicide. How many people do you think denied the love of a person so they could have, social status, career, and money? Those wretched fools are the reason why the world is such a horrible place. They choose the crude, bestial nature over the divine being within them, and they ruin their own lives and are cancerous to civilization wherever they are.
I hate those people with a burning passion. If I could exterminate any people in the world, it would be to gather up all people who chose some worldly aspect of life over love when they had the chance. I would round all of them up, and cut every last one down with a steady stream of mounted machine gun fire and plenty of bullets. Those people are what is wrong with everything in the world. They are why all the goodness has eroded away, is no longer created, and all of life is a hollow imitation of what it used to be. They chose the world instead of love, but you can have love and the world, so there is no reason to! That only becomes unavailable if you deny it. Then you cannot have it back without first going to that moment of denial when you chose a life and world without love. Why!? WHY!? YOU FILTHY, GUTTER SLUT, WHORES!!! WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED TO YOU!?
You “love me”? I flush you down the toilet. Do you think I don’t know what you are holding back? What part of love demands a word do you not understand? Do you think you can just think it to yourself toward me, expect me to know it is you, and then happily live my life alone without you? What kind of crazed, imbecilic bitch are you!?